An open note to the other parents in my kids’ classes:
Hi, my name is Meredith, and I would like to be friends. Not in a few years after we have interacted through years of classroom parties and awkward field trip conversations. I would like to be friends now, not later. Let’s be friends right now.
Let’s not wait until the mess of raising small humans is gone.
Let’s not wait because we’re afraid that the other person is more of an adult than we are and maybe they’ll judge us.
Let’s not wait until later, because later some of our kids will be fabulous athletes playing on travel teams. They will have games and tournaments out of town and be gone every weekend. Maybe one of our kids will be a gymnast, or an artist, or an actor and take classes every Saturday or Sunday or Thursday night.
Let’s not wait, because someday lives get busier, and it becomes harder to find a reason to say yes. Excuses come easier; inevitably one of those excuses will be “well we really weren’t that close when they were younger…”
Let’s be friends now. Our only excuse should be us excusing each other’s piles of laundry, and that smudge on the floor that we will pretend is dirt from the dog.
Let’s not wait to be friends; let’s be friends now, so that later when the hard stuff hits- the stuff that can’t be cleaned with soap and water- we’re there for one another. So that later we have a relationship that is strong enough to withstand hard stuff. The kind where we can fall apart with each other, and build one another back up, and have all the memories to say ‘remember when’.
This parenting road is hard. But hard things are always more fun with friends. Are you in?